I’m a professional dominatrix as well as lifestyle. I’m also a sex worker. I’ve been diving into that. It’s been a lot of fun. It’s not just about the money, the money is great but it’s helped heal me.
It’s helped me come out of my shell. I’m a big girl. I’m a sizable girl. Whenever I was open with my sexuality or things that I enjoyed or liked I was met with criticism or prejudice or even disgust because honestly fat girls gotta develop like a bomb ass personality just to be taken seriously or looked at as a human.
I felt for a long time I wasn’t able to express my needs wants, desires and that changed after having a kid. After having him it’s like now or never, you know.
I’ve been out for about a year and half now. When I was employed at the dungeon – I’m an independent dom at the moment – I’d go in do my 6 hour shift, a bunch of girls there, get ready, we bullshit. You do a lot of sitting around at the dungeon. But a session, we love sessions. The facility was great. There were 10 rooms, bondage specific room, two medical rooms, a wrestling room – full on with matts. I learned a lot of things. I try not to tie myself image to the work. As a person of color I’m expected to not charge as much. I always had to deal with that at the dungeon because of young white girls getting a lot of the sessions. But I know that I’m good at what I do and I know I can only get better.
I also try to do as much routine as I can. It’s hard. I’m on night flirt which is a phone sex chat. So I have my hours set from like 9a-3p and then from like 8 at night to like midnight. You know I have to break it up because I have a family. I’ll probably do some filming – fem/dom, fetish, kink porn. There is one [film] where it’s like boot worshipping. I had my high boots on and you know I’m just like talking shit. This really cool one I did – I was the security guard – he was stuck in an overnight shift and I was the security guard – and I had the camera and I was teasing him. It was really fun. I love that shit. You make money from that stuff. Also you get your name out there because it’s hard in New York. Don’t get me wrong, I love the scene. It just sometimes gets to me – the go go go of it. If I could have a two story home where I live with my family and this is where my kink family lives that’s great. That’s pretty much my goal.
BrujaPxssy, Bronx NY.
Images by Jose Tutes
